When we look deeply at anger, disappointment, helplessness or even jealousy; the problem isn’t someone else!
It’s we ourselves!
The point is all this happens only because of our shortcomings or over expectations!
The limitations and the disappointments or the dissatisfactions arise because of not achieving the desired results or the desired outcomes and these desires be in any form is an expectation from self – Be it the most alluring designation or the salary or an outcome – These feelings arise because we were short to deliver something to ourselves!
Even when we are dependent on others for outcomes and the disappointment or the dissatisfaction arises it’s because we were short of influencing the person to get the desired outcomes!
Be that childhood rejections of love is because we in some way failed to impress in the right way for that specific person!
So basically the cause of our every negative feeling is the self, basically we were short of something at that walk of life!
However when we look at the bigger picture, we are always short of a thing or the other in our lives.
People who are leaders know how to manage the shortcomings or they act otherwise in a better way and that’s were the talks about “Self Awareness” comes in to picture!
The more better we know ourselves, the better our expectations from self will be and that also channels and influences the desired results.
Also another perspective is our desired results keeps changing, as a kid I used to love the cone ice creams that my dad used to buy me as I grew up my desire of ice creams changed to a huge bucket comparably!
We all evolve and there isn’t negative thing about desiring more, unless you know how to manage the disappointment, dissatisfactions, anger and jealousy. The moment you can’t manage these they multiply so much so that every aspect of life starts getting impacted!
The self awareness is the key to success isn’t overrated, it helps you manage yourself in a better way so that you either know how to reach the desired outcomes or you know how to limit yourself with grace! Mastering self awareness is difficult and it takes a lot of time!
The key is to be brutally true to the inner self!
Now, The questions I ask the self is:
Brutally True to the Inner Self? Is this possible?
Limiting ourself with Grace? Is this possible?
Reach all desired outcomes? Is this possible?
And the Answers that come to my mind are:
It’s 100% possible and attainable only by Gods!
We as humans somewhere sometime loose the calmness of mind and yes this happens frequently as well! 😀
That’s were these feelings and actions are closely related to being human!
The only thing practically attainable and that we need to master is walking with grace with all these uncertain logical and psychological complications! That’s an impossible task to attain as well!